Sunday, July 30, 2006

Put Your Lips together and ....

Is Kissing purely instinctual or something that can be learned? Is it the action that best summarizes or captures the individual doing the kissing or does it capture the person he wants to present?

I’d never really given much thought to the different styles or manners of kissing. One put one’s lips on another’s lips, softly if one knew what she was doing, and slowly explored, letting instinct take over. For the past two decades that has been more than enough to get by, with marvelous results. Perhaps I was unbelievably fortunate that the men I kissed then were gifted and practiced. Certainly I'd experienced on more than one occasion that delightful sensation of melting into another body, blissfully unaware of anything outside the gentle exploration and exchange of lips and tongues that best describes in my inadequate words what it feels like to be truly well kissed.

Why raise the subject now? I’ve ventured out into the online dating world. The whys and wherefores are something for another post (if ever) but I've had the opportunity (for lack of a better word) to kiss and be kissed by a handful of men.

If I were cruel and handed out grades, none would rate higher than a C (remember when that was the average grade, well before grade inflation?) and most far lower. Even a geek, literary or otherwise, has standards. Let's discuss:

1) Tongues should not be used as assault weapons nor as battering rams.

2) Tongues are not a means of entry to another's mouth. Proper demonstration of lip on lip kissing will often yield a willing parting of the lips.

3) After achieving a willing parting of the lips, remember that tongues are not assault weapons, nor should they be waved around inside someone else's mouth to demonstrate that you are armed.

4) For anyone who hasn't seen the pertinent episode of "Sex And the City," licking the face is just gross. Don't even go there.

5) For God's sake, slow down. This is supposed to be enjoyable, not a task to be completed on MS Project.

And not to put the pressure on, but kissing well is the ultimate litmus test. Bad kissers don't get sent to the principal's office, they get sent home. Alone. Which is perhaps why I'm finding them on the online site in the first place.

Wednesday, July 26, 2006

Great new addictive way to not work!

How can anything this organized be so much fun? Check out and try not to get addicted. It took me only a minute or two. Thanks, Laurent.

There are actually practical applications and uses for this site: I'm almost as afraid of fire as the Scarecrow, but for different reasons - primarily worried about the dogs, but how on earth would I ever replace my library of books and CDs, and more books, and even more books....

But who wants to focus on the practical? Not moi. It's far more fun to see who else on the site has the same books, check out the people who have lots of books in common and then look to see what else they're reading, and the clouds ..... Did I mention the clouds?

The author and tag clouds essentially represent each individual person's library, graphically, in cloud formation, so that the author whose work appears most often literally POPs off the screen at you.

But the coolest part is that this site is just like going to a person's house -- someone you don't know well, or maybe someone you do know well -- and going through all of their bookshelves to form an impression of that person. He reads THAT? How could he?

It's an application of that personal litmus test that we don't tell anyone else about because we don't want to appear judgmental, when of course we are.

Now if I could check out people's iPod playlists online.....

Tuesday, July 18, 2006

This is apparently the year to try new things - online matchmaking services and now blogging. Who knows what I'll do next week? Could be scary, will probably be stupid, maybe I'll regret it but I'm 42 now and life is just rolling along at an increasing pace so maybe it's time to do some of those things on life's to-do list.

How stupid will this look in a week or a month or a year?